Millennials are struggling in the friends department. In my source listed below from Vox, 42% of millennials polled said they have no friends or no close friends. Significantly more than Generation X and the Boomer counterparts. Loneliness is a real issue for millennials. In a digital internet era world, the millennials can’t make and keep good friends. I fear this problem will continue on to gen Z. The desire to make good friendships seems to have been lost in the internet. Why waste time trying to build rapport with strangers when I can go online from the comfort of my own home and make “friends” on whatever video game I am playing. Why try to befriend someone from the opposite sex in hopes to form a relationship when I can just go swiping on tinder. Sadly, what the internet does is push you further away from your friends. You no longer talk with them or hang out with them, and even if you do, often times they are more worried about posting the event on snapchat or facebook. Why? Because if the event isn’t posted on the internet, then it’s like it never happened at all. The internet changed the way we experience our friendships. It changed the way we can connect with people. It changed the way people act. We see what all our friends are doing and who they are hanging out with 24/7 and we are constantly comparing ourselves to them. With the internet and smart phones, every minute is on video or on a camera, one way or another. We are all conscious of this and I think it changed how we act and even select our partners. I think we would all have more friends if we weren’t comparing ourselves to everyone else at every second of every day. The Internet has blown up the millennials ego so much to the point that they can’t even get along long enough to have even a few solid friendships. The internet brings in what I am going to call “disposable culture”. If someone isn’t up to your standards you can easily dispose of that person, whether it’s for a relationship or friendship or even an acquaintance. Don’t forget that your constant exposure to the competition of social media has changed what you would consider a worthy option for friendship or possible relationship. There’s so many ways to easily connect to literally millions of other people, so many options for any sort of relationship. Too many options leads to easily disposable possible friendships where in a different circumstance, pre-internet, you may have given that person a chance.
I will post a supplemental anecdotal story about making new friends in the modern world on my Patreon.